Friday, May 30
Offended
I am fed up with hypocrites. Tonight, I was sat in the Student Union bar in my halls of residence with a few friends from my floor when 3 of the girls started bitching about another girl who was in the bar. This other girl just happened to be one of my best friends, but she wasn't sat with us, instead socialising with a different group of friends. The 3 girls from my floor went on and on about how she was ugly, and made a whole host of other bitchy comments about her. Not until I mentioned that she was in fact one of my best friends did they stop. Then they tried to make up for it by saying that they didn't really mean it, and that they were only joking.
To be honest, I am offended by the stuff they said. I love Elena to bits, and she is one of my favourite people in the whole world. They just ripped her to shreds without her even hearing what they said. The worst part is that once I'd said that I knew her, they changed tact completely. What in the world gives them the right to be that bitchy and offensive about somebody, never mind if somebody knows that person or not? Just because I know her, that means their entire view of her, which they put forward bluntly and honestly, was in fact just a joke. I don't think so. I am completely fed up with the kind of person that bitches about people who they don't know, but won't say anything about those they know or those that are a friend of somebody to whom they're talking. You do not have the right to say that sort of thing about anybody, never mind if you know them or not.
I was close to tears by the time I got back in my room, purely because I regarded these 3 girls as my friends, if not my closest friends. To now find out, after a year of living with them, that they are like this makes me wonder just how many times they have been like this before. Do they bitch about me behind my back? Do they bitch about other people on our floor, or other people they see in the bar? I severely doubt that this is a one-off, because I've been with them a few times before in the kitchen when they've been talking about people who are not part of their immediate circle of friends. Let's just say that it's not always 100% praise.
I don't pretend that I'm not like that in some respects. The easiest way to talk about somebody is behind their back, when they're not around. I pray that I am not as offensive as they are though, and I hope that nobody has been as offended by my words as I have been tonight by theirs. Perhaps in this way I am hypocritical as well, but so be it. Everybody is, but some are more hypocritical than others.
